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Aug. 26th, 2007
It appears that there are lots of goings-on out in the poly-fam these past few days, some positive, some negative. Some of it has to do with me, some doesn't.
Welcome to poly. We know drama. ;)
When it comes to poly-fam, my sentiment is the same as![[livejournal.com profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/external/lj-userinfo.gif)
missk's thoughts: "If I care about someone that loves you... then I care about *you*. "
To me, poly-fam is about holding each other up, to help one another have the best possible relationships that we all can have. Some poly folk seem to like to keep their relationships separate from one another. I get involved and get messy. Oh it sucks and causes drama sometimes, to be sure. But that's the way I operate. I want to help my lovers with their other relationships, whether that means being a person they can vent to about a mutual lover, providing advice about how to communicate better, helping them meet new people, whatever. I also try to take a "motherly" approach and remind someone of obligations and such related to their other lovers (like reminding someone to call their lover on a regular basis.)
I see myself as a bit of a resource to the rest of my poly-fam, to help them out. And I see them as the same to me, to help me out when things get rough. I've reached out to lovers-of-a-lover when things were going rough with that lover.
This is my poly-fam ideal: A bunch of people working together, whether directly or indirectly, to care about one another and build family. I feel happy to say that I really feel that this is the case with most of my poly-fam. I've seen people go out of their way to talk to other ends of the poly-fam, to help them out with issues they're having. I've had people give me space to deal with another lover's anxiety. Generally, it seems to work out really well most of the time. Not *all* of the time, but most. And that rocks. :)
Welcome to poly. We know drama. ;)
When it comes to poly-fam, my sentiment is the same as
missk's thoughts: "If I care about someone that loves you... then I care about *you*. "To me, poly-fam is about holding each other up, to help one another have the best possible relationships that we all can have. Some poly folk seem to like to keep their relationships separate from one another. I get involved and get messy. Oh it sucks and causes drama sometimes, to be sure. But that's the way I operate. I want to help my lovers with their other relationships, whether that means being a person they can vent to about a mutual lover, providing advice about how to communicate better, helping them meet new people, whatever. I also try to take a "motherly" approach and remind someone of obligations and such related to their other lovers (like reminding someone to call their lover on a regular basis.)
I see myself as a bit of a resource to the rest of my poly-fam, to help them out. And I see them as the same to me, to help me out when things get rough. I've reached out to lovers-of-a-lover when things were going rough with that lover.
This is my poly-fam ideal: A bunch of people working together, whether directly or indirectly, to care about one another and build family. I feel happy to say that I really feel that this is the case with most of my poly-fam. I've seen people go out of their way to talk to other ends of the poly-fam, to help them out with issues they're having. I've had people give me space to deal with another lover's anxiety. Generally, it seems to work out really well most of the time. Not *all* of the time, but most. And that rocks. :)