The real disorder -- the thing that is negatively affecting the quality of life -- isn't Asperger's, it's a growing apathy towards the concepts of growth and accountability.
You know... Although I tend to agree with you, it brings up some interesting questions in my head about ableism. Is it ableism to expect or require someone with a disability to overcome their disabilities to behave "normally?" Can we consider so-called psychological conditions like depression, transsexuality, and aspeger's disabilities, even?